How to become a more positive person and lessen negativity in your life

How to love negative people and continue to be a positive person

Real relationships: How to love yourself

There are many books and courses that encourage us to love ourselves. This is a wonderful shift in human consciousness.

Still, on a practical level how do we do this successfully? In my case, I used numerous strategies in an attempt to change my consciousness.

After badmouthing myself for decades, I listened to my take on life and shut down all the bad talk. If I said a negative or disparaging comment regarding who I was, I immediately acknowledged it, and stopped letting it manifest.

Every day, I listed all my good points in my head. I did ten of them at a time. The next day, I listed ten new ones. This became a method of self-talk. I also used Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT) to remove outdated messages that I had been playing over and over in my head. If you are interested in EFT, you can find a lot of information about it on the Internet.

A practical exercise I did was making myself stand in front of the mirror and telling myself that I loved all of me, including the parts I wrestled with. Of all the modalities I used, this one brought up the most emotion. Frequently, until I filled up my self-love bucket, I would simply stand there crying and sometimes, I was unable to speak. During these moments, I realized how amazing the process was, and how much I needed to do it repeatedly.

In addition, I wrote lists of all my gifts and accomplishments and read them aloud. There is something quite phenomenal about voicing your thoughts and feelings. Somehow, it takes the healing to another place. If you then read out your list to another person, the impact is greater. The healing we gain from this simple process is much more than we know.

In reinventing the new me, I decided to surround myself only with people who nurtured me. Those who could not, I avoided or stood up to. In the situations where I could do neither, I chose to take their awful comments and symbolically throw their words into the fire.

Looking after who we are is self-love, and keeping negativity at bay is a good decision.

Anyone who tries to sow the seed of doubt in you or withholds their support is not giving you love. Normally, these souls have little self-love and may find it almost impossible to give love to anyone, and that will include you.

I focused on looking after my body, mind, and soul. With that decision, my self-love increased and instead of berating and punishing myself, I showered myself in self-love. In addition, eating well, exercising, keeping mentally active, having social and solitary time, and generally being the best parent and friend to myself paid dividends.

As I continued to work on the areas I wished to improve, I came from a loving angle, encouraging and praising myself and getting rid of any form of self-loathing or self-punishment.

On a spiritual level, I filled my body with love and asked to be guided in this wondrous journey. I read books that inspired me, talked to wise souls and stopped negatively comparing who I was with other people.

This shift took concentrated work yet all the time, I knew it was doing me good. Initially, it was hard to see the changes. Gradually, they appeared.

All these steps have brought me to a place where I can truthfully say that I love who I am. This has been a massive achievement, especially considering where I began.

Everyone can attain self-love. With daily practise and single focus, someone who dislikes themselves can change their entire life.

When we learn this lesson in love, it transfers into everything else. Being in a state of self-love, our capacity to love everybody and everything in the world is heightened.

Use my methods, use your methods, and keep working towards a new loving life. One of the greatest accomplishments humans can do is to embrace who they are and live in self-love.

 Love, Wendy x

How to love selfish people and spoilt brats ( adult and child versions)

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Anger prevailing

There is a lot of anger in the world at this time. Many people are releasing old patterns of anger and others are simply expressing it.

Don't be surprised when you break things accidentally, can't get your computer to work or feel irritated or frustrated. The energy is affecting all of us.

As the anger surfaces, we can either express it or simply let it go. By let it go, I mean find safe and peaceful ways to release it. This may include breathwork, EFT, meditation, prayer, etc. Use methods that work for you.

We can also send healing to "hot" spots in the world. Many people on earth have had past lives in Atlantis and Lemuria. In these advanced societies, manipulating and using energy was explored.

Keep calm when the anger rises and choose peace. Often our daily life reflects the bigger picture and our responses to anger may lessen or increase it.

Good luck,

Love, Wendy x

Coming from your heart

Being a spiritual person means you try to come from love. Of course, you retain your healthy boundaries but in all things, you come from a loving space.

Now this is easy to say, but difficult to do sometimes.

Most people actually come from power and control and rarely come from their heart. They choose to come from their head. The order for them is head first, heart second.

The heart is our centre. It is the connection to the soul. 

Once you begin to be consciously aware of living through your heart centre, your world becomes a kind and joyful place. We love others regardless, and allow them to be who they are. There is no power or control, simply love given.

This is working at a higher level than your human part. You work in the realm of the soul.

Love is why we are here. To learn to be more loving beings to ourselves and others. 

Love, Wendy x

Surrendering

Link for surviving grief

Please share this link with anyone struggling with grief. I wrote the book called "It's all about...moving on" and have uploaded it in sections.
Thanks, Wendy x


https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-dTXOuihBeh5bRr1VR5aA

Why love is better than ego

As we try to become a more spiritual being coming from love, not ego is the way. 

Ego is the "I" part of us. It is the false self of who we are. Ego is governed by power, control, self-absorption,and is based on fear. Those who have big egos do not love themselves enough. In a strange twist, their lack of self-love blocks true love from existing in their world.  Instead they focus on dominating all of their relationships and like spoilt brats, eventually destabilize every loving union they have. 

That's the bad news. Now the good news.

Ego-driven relationships can be saved. Saved by two kinds of love-our self-love and our love for others. When we keep coming from love, ego diminishes. We all have a degree of ego. However, too much"I" is unhealthy, and stops us from being able to put loved ones first. 

In an ego partnership, our needs always come first, above our partner.

In a love-based union, in a place of self-love , we happily meet the needs of our partner. It is a joy to do so. 

Love gives without measure. Ego takes for the self.   

To lessen our ego-based behavior, we need to mindful and come from love on every occasion. Whenever possible we need to 

- stop arguing about everything 

-stop having to be right

-stop criticizing and laying blame 

-stop withholding love as punishment 

-stop  playing power games 

-stop diminishing 

-stop shaming others

- stop making up lies to hold the power

-stop taking and not giving back

-stop defending, judging, and avoiding issues 

-stop being selfish 

-stop hurting others to assert our power

-stop disconnecting from loved ones

-stop being mean, nasty, or cruel

Instead in love we

-find ways to agree and find compromise

-embrace others and accept their right to their own opinions or beliefs

-give praise and encouragement

-give love unconditionally 

-refrain from power playing

-lift our loved ones up, especially when they are down

-show how proud we are of them

-speak the truth kindly

-be willing to sacrifice our needs when necessary 

-be giving and kind 

-show compassion and understanding

-listen in an nonjudgmental way 

-be open to advice and show respect for others

-be willing to admit our wrongdoings

-strive never to intentionally hurt another person or animal

- love unconditionally in every situation we encounter

All of us can move from an ego-based life but there is only one path to success. It is the path of unconditional love. With a loving intention, every step moves us further away from ego and closer to love. Love dissolves the ego, and makes us whole again.